As a child I used to make paper boats and watch them go down a stream.  As the boat traveled it encountered obstacles along the way.  This reminds me of my journey through life and the difficulties that lie within.


The journey begins so peacefully with everything in tact, no worries, with no trouble in sight.


But this is what lies ahead…..swift currents, unseen rocks, twists and turns, with no end in sight……

This is where the rubber meets the road with pressures of the unknown.  Your whole body, mind and soul become affected as you traverse the waters and obstacles.

So what do you do?  How do you handle this?  I would suggest to F.L.O.W. with the GO.  This has been my healing process over the last year, and I hope that it encourages and helps you as you FLOW with the River of LIFE.

F….FEELINGS ARE VALID.  As you start encountering difficulties, allow yourself to FEEL.  Your feelings are healings and will allow yourself to stay on course.  Feelings are temporary, they come and go like the wind, but if you bury them and ignore them they won’t go away but just cause a deeper problem within.  Note:this doesn’t mean to use your feelings as a weapon to hurt or injure others.



L….LOVE YOURSELF AND OTHERS.  Whether your journey is smooth or rough, stay in an attitude of LOVE.  When things get tough we start to blame ourselves and others.  Hatred will do nothing but sink your ship by breaking down the infrastructure, causing weakness, depression, anxiety and even cancer.  LOVE is the most powerful thing you can do, so give up and give in to LOVE.



O….OPEN UP TO NEW INFORMATION.  You find yourself in the middle of turmoil with difficulties of the past, present and future on your mind.  You use everything that you know to guide yourself through this process, but it doesn’t seem to be working, your boat is being rocked.  This is when you must be OPEN to new information that can help you with troubled waters.



W….WAITING IS THE HARDEST PART.  You’ve embraced your FEELINGS, you have an attitude of LOVE and have OPENED UP to new information.  But you want it all to work now!  This is where patience kicks in my friend.  The journey is long and arduous, and the healing takes time.  BE PATIENT with yourself and remain under the circumstances you find yourself in, I promise, it will all be OK.



Finally, as you sail on your ship through this journey we call LIFE, remember to FLOW WITH THE GO and I promise you will find PEACE OF MIND, while knowing that you are LOVED by others and THE ONE WHO CREATED YOU and will COMFORT you through this journey.


Thank You, but Thank the Veterans

The outpouring of love and support that I have received is overwhelming.  As humbling as it is and thankful as I am, I really hope and pray that you would consider our Veterans for their Sacrifice.  Last night I watched the movie American Sniper and was deeply moved again by the selfless service our Veterans give.

20141003_AmericanSniper1The portrayal of Chris Kyle by the actor Bradley Cooper, was outstanding and breathtaking.  The decision to Sacrifice Everything for our Freedom is a price that few are willing to pay.

I have received messages from some Veterans saying that I really don’t understand PTSD(post traumatic stress disorder).  They are correct!  I don’t understand nor will ever understand what they have been through.  Even though I served as a United States Marine, I didn’t see combat.  I have been in therapy with Veterans who suffer PTSD and am very respectful while being ashamed that I suffer from PTSD.  Nevertheless, we all suffer, I even received a message from the mother of a 12 year old boy who suffers from this tragic condition.

Will or can we stop PTSD?  I would say no, since we are all vulnerable creatures and Trauma does not discriminate.  The only thing we can do, is recognize it regardless of the severity, and learn how to manage moving forward.

My request as you encourage me through your messages and comments, is to reach out to the wonderful souls who serve our County bravely and Thank them for laying down their life for you!


God Bless you and God Bless our Veterans!

Semper Fi,




Could you make the Decision to give it ALL when ALL can be Lost?  Why would you give it ALL?


These men did.  They paid the ultimate sacrifice by giving their LIVES.


Not only did this day change America, it showed commitment to by making a DECISION to Stand in the Face of Evil.

I’m grateful for those who sacrificed 70 years ago today so we and others could have Freedom.  The price was extremely high freeing millions from oppression and Tyranny.  Even more tragic was Hitler’s Final Solution toward the elimination of the European Jews.

God Bless those who served, gave and sacrificed, we will forever be grateful to your courage on DECISION DAY, to throw caution into the wind.

John 15:13 – No one has greater love than to give up one’s life for one’s friends.

Health Care Reform You Can Control

No matter what is happening with Health Care Reform and the Affordable Care Act, you have Choices!  So what are the Choices you can Control?


EXERCISE and……..



Take a step and just start.  One day at a time.  Don’t worry about the scale or your weight, just start.  

My friend who has been in the Fitness business for many years told me that out of all the workout programs and fad diets, it really all boils down to commitment to a routine.  An hour or less a day.  This is Health Care Reform You Can Control.

So, can you do 30 minutes of Cardio work per day?  Just walking or using a Cardio machine.

Can you do 30 minutes of Strength conditioning 3 days a week?  Push ups, Sit ups, Lunges, Bar dips and Pull ups.

You don’t even need a gym membership.

What about Diet?  The math is simple, Calories in, Calories out.  I have started eating more vegetables and smaller portions.  My taste buds are even now craving this healthier diet.

Can you start eating differently?  Just shopping and buying foods that you wouldn’t normally eat.

I hope that you make a Decision for Health Care Reform you Can Control with me.  I will be praying for encouragement to those who want to step up and take this challenge.

Something else to consider:

Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? – 1 Corinthians 6:19


CHANGE of Direction

It’s your Choice.  It’s your Chance.  It’s your Life.

look in the mirror


Only you can do it.  Others may help you with change and some will do everything to stop it.

So look into the mirror and be honest with yourself.

Then, take that first step, a baby step if you must.

Next, stick with it and build upon it each day.

Have a wonderful and blessed day, you are special and only you can be you!

James 1:23

Out of the Darkness and into the Light

Can you see the Light?  Or do you feel hopelessly stuck in the Dark?


We all struggle with being in Darkness and the feeling of being overwhelmed with no hope.

Today is the day that we celebrate the HOPE that lies in the Ultimate question, coming out of the Darkness of Death and into the Light of Life.

The Christian Faith is built upon this Hope.  This is what Paul the Apostle said about this Hope in his letter to the Corinthians:

And if Christ is not risen, then our preaching is empty and your faith is also empty. Yes, and we are found false witnesses of God, because we have testified of God that He raised up Christ, whom He did not raise up—if in fact the dead do not rise.  For if the dead do not rise, then Christ is not risen. And if Christ is not risen, your faith is futile; you are still in your sins! Then also those who have fallen asleep in Christ have perished.  If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men the most pitiable.  1 Corinthians 15:14-19


Today I celebrate this Hope, like many of you, and the Gratitude that JESUS walked out of that Tomb nearly 2000 years ago.  Overcoming Death and Darkness.  He walked out of the Darkness and into the Light, and anyone who believes unto HIM by Faith will do the same and live Forever.

Have a Blessed and Wonderful Easter!


The Truth shall set you Free, but do you want it?

Something we all desire, that feeling of being set Free.  But do we really want the Truth?


Can You Handle The Truth?  

Are we just more comfortable faking each other out, appeasing, so we don’t upset anyone?  Everyday I see it.  We do it everywhere, with family, friends, work, politics, church……

So is it the fault of the hearer or the teller?

I say both!  We all have an angle we are working.  To control, or manipulate, or protect, it’s just too painful as the hearer to face rejection and too fearful as the teller to face loss.

The solution starts with you.  Look in the mirror and take a stand, stop falling into these traps.  You know, if your honest, that it creates conflict within your own mind, becoming a slippery slope.

Listen and check others motives for control, while challenging yourself regarding peer pressure and being accepted.

Live Truth, Love Truth and The Truth shall set you Free!

John 14:6

Veil of Tears

Powerful, Gripping and Heartbreaking barely describe this Powerful documentary from The Saylors Brothers Films.  The rights of women in India, and the abuse they suffer is atrocious and I hope that you will look up this film in your local area.  .  http://veiloftearsmovie.com/


Broken Promises and Wrong Reactions – ADOPT AN ATTITUDE

Things don’t go your way.  People don’t do what they said they would.  How does this affect your Attitude?


Break an egg for a Broken Promises Omelet, with a side of No Accountability, a dash of Neglect, peppered with a Lack of Integrity, gives us all a great opportunity to end up with a stomach full of Rage and Anger.  The question is, who suffers?  It’s not the Broken Promises Omelet but the acid reflux of our wrong reactions that give us the Attitude heartburn.

This is the Broken Promises Omelet that I was served today –

I went in for my prescheduled medical appointment this morning.  The person took my information, then asked when I would like to schedule the procedure, to which I stated, “I’ve been fasting for 12 hours and was scheduled to do it now.”  Then I was told that I was scheduled at their other facility!  I drove over there and they told me I would have to wait for an hour or so.  I couldn’t do it, since I had another commitment to meet with a Client.  My Broken Promises Omelet was served.

After my Client meeting, I went home to meet someone who scheduled a service appointment with me on a home appliance.  An hour went by, no phone call, no service person, nothing?  So, I called the company, left a message, and moved on to my next appointment, the rescheduled medical procedure.  Now I had the side of no Accountability.

Medical procedure done, after 16 hours of fasting, time for lunch.  My schedule had become tight, needed to get to my next appointment so I went through a reliable and famous drive thru restaurant.  I drove away, parked in the shade, opened up my food, and IT WAS THE WRONG ORDER!  My whole meal, complete with the dash of Neglect and peppered with a Lack of Integrity was on my plate.


How would you be feeling after all of this?  What do you think was going on with me?

The Truth…….As it was happening, I started to recognize the external events as being out of my control but did have a minor reaction.  Internally I started to realize what was going on and chose to remain calm toward the situation and the day.

My Story, is your Story……so how will you react?  Situations like this happen everyday, and many are out of our control.  What we can control is our reaction to these situations.  We don’t have to eat the Broken Promises Omelet,  just push it away and choose another restaurant. 

My keys to preserving my Attitude:

  1. Write your plans in pencil, not ink.  Be flexible, most everything that happens is not the end of the world and the things that were a big deal 5 years ago you probably can’t remember.
  2. Catch your reaction.  Be aware of your emotions and catch them before they consume you.  Watch your words, as they might hurt others, even those coming toward you.  Your reaction only hurts you.
  3. No one is perfect.  We all make mistakes, everyone.  How does it make you feel when someone attacks you when you’ve made a mistake?  Have empathy for those involved, things will get resolved in a better manner.

But this next one is the biggest key for me and gives me the strength to overcome every situation:

Paul the Apostle wrote “Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus” Philippians 2:5

By receiving this truth, I am at peace in my mind/attitude in ALL situations.  Why?  Because Jesus is not worried, stressed out, or upset by anything.  So why should I, if my thoughts line up with HIS thoughts, and I see things the way HE sees things.  This may sound simple or trite, but to me it has been deeply profound in giving me the strongest foundation to Adopting an Attitude that gives me an incredible mental perspective.




“Go to the ant, you sluggard! Consider her ways and be wise, which, having no captain, overseer or ruler, provides her supplies in the summer, and gathers her food in the harvest.”  Proverb 6:6-8


As you consider the day and it’s troubles, the Ant shows us the characteristics of personal responsibility, industriousness, perseverance and preparation.  NO EXCUSES……FOLLOW THE EXAMPLE OF THE ANT!